It’s
another day. The sun’s shining and the birds are chirping. You get on the bus.
You arrive at school and open the doors. Now your good day has gone down the
drain. Now you know your day will be sheer horror. Why? Because today you have
to choose between a guy who has been your best friend forever and the one you
give all your love to, your boyfriend. So which will it be?
A lot of teenagers these days are
dealing with the fact that your best friend is in love with you -- and so is
your boyfriend. You don’t want to leave your boyfriend, because you love him,
but you also don’t want to hurt your best friend. This brings to mind a very
popular sci-fi romance that has girls fainting, and that’s “Twilight.” In
“Twilight,” a girl named Bella is torn between her friendship with Jacob, a
werewolf, and her relationship with Edward, a vampire.
But, of course, this is reality.
“If I had to choose between my
best friend and my boyfriend, I would have to say that I would choose to stay
with my boyfriend and tell my best friend that we can only be friends, but at
the same time I would want my friendship,” says Yvelande Merisier, 16, who
attends Boston Community Leadership
Academy. “It might be
hard for my best friend to handle the news, but he has to understand that if
he’s my best friend, then he would let me be happy and make my own decisions.”
This can be a very hard topic to
choose sides on because, on the one hand, you don’t want to hurt your best
friend, and, on the other hand, you don’t want to leave your boyfriend because
you are happy and in love with him.
Fitaw Beyene, 15, from Roxbury,
says: “It depends on how long you and your best friend have known each other,
and how long you have been with your boyfriend.”
Friendship grows over time and
can develop even after fights. But isn’t a relationship the same, only
intimate? Can’t your best friend understand that you only think of him as a
friend and nothing more?
“Even if my best friend likes
me…I wouldn’t be with him,” says Tiffany Rosario, 17, from BCLA. “He knows
everything about me and I think that would be too much. But, if I liked him
more than my boyfriend, then I would give the relationship a try.”
In the end, it’s the person in
the love triangle who’s stuck in the middle and has to make the choice. And
that’s not okay.