Girls are confusing. If that’s not a fact already, it should be. Men, you’re never going to figure out what your girl wants. It’s impossible because we’re constantly changing our minds. One minute we’ll like you, the next we won’t. That’s just how we work. Yes, that makes it hard for you to be “chivalric pansies” but sometimes we’re worth the wait.

I agree with my good friend Jeff, who wrote, “A Gentleman’s Rebuttal,” when he says that women deserve an explanation and I’m here to give it. But I disagree when he says that men deserve an excuse. I believe that men like Jeff who are chivalric pansies shouldn’t need to give an excuse, because they’ve already done everything they can think of to make things right in their girl’s life. They open the door and they tell us we’re beautiful and they would never think of making us pay our way at dinner. Because of men like Jeff, chivalry, in fact, is not dead.

Men like Jeff have already reached the level of gentlemanlyness that most women strive to find when their older. Girls our age just haven’t learned to appreciate it yet. But don’t give up on us; we just like to take our time when it comes to matters of the heart, because it seems like girls get hurt much easier than guys.

It’s the guys that treat girls like they’re nothing that makes us believe that chivalry is dead. It’s those guys that need the excuse. Scratch that, they don’t even deserve the excuse. They “play” a girl and make her fall in love before they find out that he’s been seeing her best friend on the side. It’s those guys who think they’re hot stuff and can string more than one girl along at the same time who have killed chivalry.

So in truth, generally, there are two types of guy, the good guy who would love to open the door, and the bad guy who likes to play sick twisted games with a girl’s hearts.

The hardest part is that girls constantly fall for the bad guy. That’s pretty much common knowledge. By “the bad guy,” I mean the one that’s cute and sweet when you first meet him, but constantly has girls all over him. But we overlook that. We want to be one of those girls hanging all over that guy, except we want to be the only one, which we know isn’t possible, but we overlook that, too.

Regardless of how many good guys there are, we’re drawn to the bad ones. On top of that, even after girls have realized that we’re being played, we still go along with it. We act as if there are no better guys out there. When in reality, there are tons of guys like Jeff, we just don’t see it or know where to look. Sometimes the good guy is as obvious as the naked cowboy in the middle of Times Square.

By nice girls staying with the bad guy, it’s almost like we’re giving them a free ticket to continue being a bad guy. It’s not fair that some guys can act like that, but at the same time, girls let them, so it might not completely be the bad boys’ fault.

And usually, girls won’t realize what we’ve missed out on until its far, far too late. Just like guys, we have thick heads. We won’t see the perfect guys standing just off to the side, because were focused on the bad boy who likes to show off. We’re like little kids; we like things that are flashy until we realize that they fall apart with the slightest confrontation.

At this point in our lives, high school, most people aren’t worried about being a gentleman or a lady. They are just looking for someone they can talk to, laugh with, and be comfortable around. And most girls, like me, definitely appreciate men, like Jeff, who go the extra mile to make us feel special and to “open a door.”

So, like I said before, we are constantly changing our minds. We want the hot bad boy, but secretly we want him to be sweet and sensitive inside. When he’s not, we blame it on all boys. It’s like that quote, “boys are stupid.” Every girl says that at least once a week, and is bound to say a two or three dozen more times until we find the right guy.